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It’s that time of year again. The mad panic to get summer ready. What do you want to get out of all of this stress? Fat loss? (Notice I didn’t say WEIGHT loss – I’m making the assumption that this goal is to lose body fat, not muscle, organ, bone etc weight?) Fitness? Self love?

If your quest is to lose body fat, how are you going to go about this? Are you going to just cut out whole food groups/foods and drinks that you enjoy/cut your calories to a crazy level/exercise far more than your body can handle?

Say that you go about it in this way.

  1. Sure, you’re going to lose weight, and probably quite quickly. That will feel pretty awesome, huh? But can you keep it up forever? Because the INSTANT you ease back to a regular way of eating/exercising, or even just less strict than what you were doing, BOOM, back comes that weight, usually plus extra. So unless you plan on sticking to it until you die, don’t expect that plan to work long term, it will only seem like it works as long as you torture yourself and make yourself miserable. When you realise it’s not worth it, it’s all comin’ back, baby.
  2. If you go for the quick fix, how will you feel about yourself when you get to your goal weight? Do you expect that hitting that number on the scales will magically push your happy button? That suddenly you love yourself, you never want to eat your favourite comfort foods, that this restrictive way of living will make you happy long term?
  3. Do you think that living like this will suddenly make you be able to look in the mirror and not cry about how you look? Maybe you think it will, but I’m telling you now, that doesn’t happen. That only comes with work on your mental fitness. If you hate your body when you start, losing 20kg won’t make you like yourself more – you will always want to lose more, to change your nose, your hair, your cankles. If you’re still sad, why did you even bother? Losing weight doesn’t fix self image, long term. Believe me, I’ve been there. Work on loving yourself even more than you work on the scales, then when you do get to your goal weight, it will be so much more worth it.
  4. You only have this life once, and it’s not really for that long. Do you want to spend it constantly depriving yourself of things that make you happy? Skipping spending time with loved ones because you have to exercise?

You can make loads of positive changes to your body and lifestyle without putting yourself through all of this. Losing body fat doesn’t have to equal starvation and deprivation, tiredness and crankiness from living such a strict life. Yes, there are people out there who can do this long term and be perfectly happy, but for most of us, part of enjoying life is having a coffee in the morning, a wine every now and then. Some chocolate, just because we feel like it. Exercise that we enjoy, not just doing it because we want to reduce the number on the scale.

So in the end, it’s up to you. But I just ask that you PLEASE don’t think a quick, restrictive diet and crazy exercise schedule is going to help you long term, nor is it going to make you happy, unless you work on your happiness as you go. Just think carefully about it. Don’t sacrifice your happiness for a few kg.

Life is worth so much more than the number on the scale.

About Me

I started MisFIT NZ because I was so sick of all the “get skinny quick” schemes out there, all the businesses just trying to make a buck from playing with women’s emotions, making them promises of fast fat loss and endless amounts of energy and happiness, when all the focus was on restriction and short term results, not on working on your self image or making realistic changes that can be kept to, long term. As an overweight person myself, I know how hard it can be to set foot in a gym, how hard it can be to learn to love ourselves and to treat ourselves with the respect we give others. So I’m here to help other ladies learn this as well. If you want to have a chat about how we can work together, head here and take a look at my current options that are available, to see what is most suitable for you.